Hi, Here is my issue, I seem to be able to go to work 5 days a week and function (for the most part) fine. However when I get home all I want to do is NOTHING. I have no pleasure in anything at home. Almost every weekend I lay on the couch and say very hurtful things to the people that love me (It’s like I want them to hurt like I hurt)!!! All I want is to be happy and NORMAL, my kids hate me and I don’t blame them. My husband sticks with me and I feel so bad for him because he deserves so much better.I am on wellbutrin at the moment, I have been on so many different drugs and nothing helps.I feel so empty and lost and can’t get motivated for anything. I have let my family down so many times and I just want to be HAPPY can you please help me, there have to be other people out there like me. My Dr. doesn’t know what to do with me, I think he thinks I’m nuts.When I get like this I just want to be alone…PLEASE,PLEASE can you help me so I can help myself?
I have helped many people with symptoms exactly like yours. I am not unique in my ability to help people. Somewhere, most likely within 25 miles of where you live now, there is a therapist who can help you. I can answer your questions over the Internet, but I can’t treat you over the Internet.
The most important thing for you to remember is that there is a therapist, close to where you are right now, ready and willing to help you. You need to open your phone book, do an Internet search, and begin your inquiries. Ask to speak to the therapist and read to him or her, a list of your symptoms. This should promote a dialogue between the two of you. Thank this person for his or her time and then call the next one on the list. When you have finished with all of your calls, you’ll find that there will be a few therapists that you did not like at all and there may be one or two that you seemed to “click with.” Studies show that it is this latter group of therapists who are the most likely to help you.
Carl Jung believed that depression was simply the conscious mind being forced into closer alignment with the unconscious mind, where the roots of consciousness and the beginning of the pathways of consciousness exist. This pathway of growth, he termed individuation. It is similar to Abraham Maslow’s concept of self-actualization. You may be interested in reading more about both topics.
You are able to function at work but do not feel emotionally well at home. Your specific circumstances would be highly suggestive to me of the need for talk therapy. Some people take the route of talk therapy others take the route of medication and some do both.
I hope you will take my advice and I wish you the best of luck.
Dr. Kristina Randle
