I have been intrigued by murder and serial killers, it borderlines on obsession. For over 7 years I have been having vivid fantasies about plunging knives into my sisters chest and throat and poisoning my dad. Then it progressed to complete strangers. I have each one planed out from picking my victim, to the actual act, then the disposal of the body and any evidence, even my alibi should I need it. These fantasies moved to urges, so strong that I have to hold myself back from actually doing it. This should sicken me but it Intrigues me, fascinates me, excites me. In my fantasies I’m doing it out of boredom because it’s fun. Most recently I have included myself in them. Making me the victim as well.
The fact that you have most recently included yourself as a victim in your fantasies indicates that you have a desire to die. It means that you are both homicidal and suicidal. In many cases, they seem to go hand-in-hand.
You did not provide details about your life circumstances but I suspect that you are experiencing a great deal of psychological pain and are in a position in which you feel a lack of power. Often, individuals who feel as though they have insufficient power in the world will fantasize about what they perceive to be the ultimate power, which is taking the life of another.
There’s nothing glamorous about murder or those who commit it. It’s an act of grave destruction. Every religion considers it a sin. It’s an act of evil, plain and simple.
You are on the verge of being unable to control your behavior. In addition, it seems as though you continually expose yourself to your obsession which increases the likelihood that you may act out your fantasies. I would consider your risk for potential violence as being high.
I strongly urge you to seek emergency assistance. If you feel that you cannot control your behavior, then go to the emergency room immediately. The staff at the emergency room can keep you safe and can ensure that you receive treatment. Treatment would also address why you feel compelled to hurt others and help you to control your impulses.
Fantasizing about wanting to harm others and yourself are clear indicators of mental instability and potentially severe depression. At this point in time, you have not harmed anyone. Should you act on your fantasies, you will lose your freedom and potentially your life. You might spend the rest of your life in prison or face the death penalty.
If you’re looking for other ways to handle boredom, I have some ideas that may be helpful.
- Engage in physical activity: Going for a walk, run, workout or playing a sport can help you release energy and improve your mood.
- Learn a new skill or hobby: Taking up a new hobby or learning a new skill can keep your mind occupied and give you a sense of purpose.
- Seek therapy or counseling: Seeking professional help to deal with negative thoughts and emotions can provide the protagonist with the tools and support needed to cope.
- Turn to creative outlets: Engaging in creative pursuits such as writing, drawing, or music can channel the protagonist’s energy and emotions into something positive.
- Find a new purpose or goal: Setting a new goal or finding a new purpose can give the protagonist direction and motivation, and help shift their focus away from negative thoughts and behaviors.
- Connect with friends and loved ones: Building and maintaining strong relationships with friends, family, and loved ones can provide a sense of support and fulfillment, and help combat feelings of boredom and loneliness.
Please seek help immediately before you do something that you will regret and could ruin your life. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
