You think postpartum depression only strikes in women?
Nope, men experience depression after the baby is born too. While more rare a condition, if left untreated it can affect both the newborn baby and mom just as much as mom’s postpartum depression can. (Postpartum depression simply refers to an episode of clinical depression experienced after a baby is born.)
U.S. News and World Report has the story:
Ten percent of new fathers and 14 percent of new mothers are affected by depression, says psychologist James F. Paulson, assistant professor of pediatrics at Eastern Virginia Medical School in Norfolk, Va. Yet most men and their partners fail to recognize the condition when it arises. The symptoms are similar in both sexes, but the causes may be different. Hormonal changes can contribute to a woman’s suffering, experts suspect, whereas sudden and unexpected lifestyle changes are thought to trigger a father’s depression. “After the baby is born, there’s a change in family structure,” says Thomas Newmark, chief of psychiatry at Cooper University Hospital in Camden, N.J., and organizer of the APA workshop. “There might be pressure to take care of the child economically. The man may not get the attention from his wife that he was used to. And, of course, his sleep is affected.”
Depressed dads are more likely than moms to display destructive behaviors, including increased use of alcohol or drugs, shows of anger, engagement in conflicts, and risk-taking such as reckless driving or extramarital sex. Some, like Hyman, elect to work longer hours.
Other signs: a depressed or sad mood, loss of interest or pleasure, weight gain or loss, oversleeping or trouble sleeping, restlessness, fatigue, feelings of worthlessness or guilt, impaired concentration, and thoughts of suicide or death. The depression can begin within days or weeks of delivery and last for a year or more.
Who recognizes the depressed dad first? The mom, of course, who sees the behavioral changes in her partner and knows something is up.
The good news is that postpartum depression — in both men and women — is readily treated. Within a few months, most people who experience postpartum depression are usually feeling better.
U.S. News and World Report also offers these 7 tips to help postpartum depression (in men and women):
- Attending hospital-sponsored parenting classes.
- Designing a financial plan to address expected baby-related expenses.
- Devising strategies for shared childcare responsibilities. The father, for example, may handle a nighttime feeding by using formula or pumped breast milk.
- Addressing marital or relationship issues before the child is born.
- Hiring domestic help or asking a family member to baby-sit once a week.
- Understanding that sex lives change with the birth and may not return to normal for a year or more.
- Joining a support group for new fathers or reading about depression on websites such as PostpartumMen.com, which includes a screening test for men.
Having a baby is huge life change — much larger than most people who go through it for the first time realize. Be prepared and know that postpartum depression is a real possibility — for both moms and dads.
Read the full article: Postpartum Depression Strikes New Fathers, Too
4 comments
New dads going through depression also makes perfect sense. I would posit that the probabilities increase when the female spouse is first undergoing postpartum depression. This would be a cross-over effect like in other spousal effected cross-over issues.
Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D.
http://www.DrSam.tv
Wow, great article!!! Would you mind checking out mine and leave a comment telling me what you think? It’s here: http://brainblogger.com/2008/05/30/postpartum-depression-not-just-for-moms/
Thanks!!!
Thank you very much for this important article, and for bringing attention to this too often over-looked problem.
I’m especially glad you mentioned that postpartum depression in men is treatable. For most men, the biggest problem is NOT the depression itself, but the fact that think they should try to go it alone and not get help — and that’s the worst thing they can do. Left untreated, postpartum depression often worsens and can lead to other serious consequences for a man and his family.
I thought your readers might like to know about a web site for men with postpartum depression: SadDaddy.com. It’s the only Internet site specifically for new dads with depression, and includes lots of information, an assessment for new fathers to complete, and an online forum for dads to talk with each other.
Thanks again, and keep up the good work!
Warm wishes,
Dr. Will Courtenay
WillCourtenay.com.
Hi, I have researched this topic in detail due to the fact I fear this is the problem with my husband at present. However, he is in total denial and believes he is a fantastic father and could not possibly do more for them.
We have 8 month old twin boys who were born 10 weeks early and spent 11 weeks in NICU and special care units. To top all that they were the result of our 13th attempt at IVF. We opened a new business last year and the list goes on.
He has moved out of the family home and keeps coming back and forth and is very confused about his feelings towards me now as well.
I have a huge job and have sort help from any direction I have been able to at present. My husband however is looking for anything and everything to blame me for and accuse me of for the way he is feeling.
How can I possibly get him help if he refuses to see that he could be depressed in any way at all or for that matter needs help?
Please help me!