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Molested by My Grandfather in a Dream

by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP September 17th, 2023

written by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Last night I had a dream that I was molested by my grandfather. We were sat on my auntie’s bed, he was drunk and his face screwed up and his demeanor was very different to how he is in real life, but it was my grandfather.
My grandfather and I are very close, he is everything to me and I grew up with my grandparents so they are more like my parents than grandparents.

When I was approx 6-years-old, I was molested by my uncle on my grandfather’s side – my grandfather’s brother. They look a little alike but not extremely so. My grandparents are aware and they supported me throughout. I know for a fact that this dream was not a recollection or reflection of any real-life happenings. But why did it have to be my grandfather? I even spoke the words in my dream, “please don’t be like your brother.” While I was pleading with him not to touch me -in the dream.

My grandfather is everything to me. Now I feel guilty and ashamed at having such a dream because he would never hurt me. The events of my childhood happened so long ago and do not tend to affect my everyday life as an adult as I have learned to accept what happened. Please tell me why this horrid dream had to occur and why now when I’m at a point in my life where I am happy and living with my soul mate in a very loving relationship. I woke up physically crying my heart out and sweating all over. I don’t understand why this is happening now. Please enlighten me as I don’t want this dream to ever reoccur. (From the United Kingdom)

Dreams are important and typically happening to help us in some way. The way to understand the dream is to ask yourself what is/are the essential feature(s) in the dream, why is it happening now, and if the dream is trying to help — what is it trying to get you to become aware of?

Only you can interpret this accurately, but what jumps out from the content of the dream is the issue of similar but different. Is there someone in your life, a situation, an encounter where you are experiencing someone one way, but hoping they do not act in another? The fact that your (good) grandfather is symbolizing the (bad) uncle may be a clue. More specifically, is there a good man in your life that you may be concerned about? This could be that the situation is good and you worry how long it will last, or that you have uncertainty about a relationship with a man.

Finally, since the phrase you use is actually: “don’t be like your brother,” maybe to look specifically at brothers you know in your life.

Finally, keep a journal of your important dreams as they will often give you clues about what the theme is to become aware of.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan

September 17, 2023 0 comment

What Is This Dream About?

by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker September 2nd, 2023

written by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

From a teen in the U.S.: I had a dream where I was in a relationship with an acquaintance. This person is a friend of one of my friends. Let’s give her a name, Bella. Her physical appearance was: straight black short hair (shoulder length), round-face structure, black eyes, cute cheeks, slim.

In the dream, Bella and I met in a classroom setting and she was the one that seemed interested in me. In that exact moment, we were now in a relationship (no conversations, small talk, etc.). After the classroom setting, I was now in a library with my friends. There was about 12 friends that was there. I told them that I was now in a relationship with Bella. The friend who knows Bella was there and they were all cheering for me. After this setting, it suddenly went to a darker setting. Bella and I were out on a date, and I can vaguely remember but I think we were on a date. During that night, the area was a wide-open field and we were sitting on a tree branch. The branch was slightly elevated (3ft off the ground floor).

I knew nothing of Bella, but yet, I liked her. Our conversations were awkward and silent because we don’t know each other. I tried my hardest to try to come up with a conversation on getting to know Bella, but I couldn’t think of any. One question I remembered was, “What is your favorite color?”. She replied that it was blue, orange, and white/black. I replied back that those are my favorite colors, too (it really is). After this conversation, it was time for her to go home, and we kissed. I watched her walk to her house (which was close; about a house-distance away from the tree). Bella was struggling to get in the house, and went through the backyard (I was laughing while watching her).

And that was when I woke up. During the times of these events, I noticed I was struggling to communicate with her through texts and in person. I would forget to text her “good morning” and “good night”. It would happen very often. Even at the end of that last event, I forgot to text her until it was very late (2AM).

For the general therapists or psychologists, I would like to know what this dream is about. Thank you for reading.

Although there are dozens of books available that supposedly help people interpret dreams, they don’t. Dreams are highly idiosyncratic to the dreamer. Each person has her or his own symbolic language; his or her own meanings for the things that happen in a dream state. I’d have to talk to you at length to help you discover your own symbolism.

A place to start, though, is this: Consider that every aspect of your dream is something you are trying to tell yourself. Retell the story from the point of view of Bella, from the friends, even from the tree branch. Take this seriously. Really get into each character. Often people find that this exercise gives them some insight into their dream world. It’s at least worth a try.

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

September 2, 2023 0 comment

Recurring Intense Dreams about Former Therapist

by Holly Counts, Psy.D. October 7th, 2022

written by Holly Counts, Psy.D.

Many years ago I was in therapy with a psychologist. I’ll call him “Bill”. We bonded very closely…intellectually, instinctively, and there was an undeniable sensual vibe between us. I remained in weekly therapy with Bill for 6 years. We both worked hard with my issues. The therapy was excellent and productive. I know we both recognized how close we felt to each other, but neither of us ever, in any way, crossed therapeutic boundaries. At the end of my 6th year in therapy, Bill (who worked out of the VA) had some major disagreements with his supervisor over using what at that time were unusual therapy techniques (meditation, mindfulness, Buddhist philosophy, other alternatives techniques that are now highly regarded in the therapy setting…but this was the military, so nothing “weird” was acceptable). Bill was told he could resign or be fired. I went in for my usual session & Bill told me he’d resigned. The news was devastating to me and he was very upset, as well. We saw each other one more time, then he moved to another country and got married. I had almost no time to grieve the end of our therapeutic relationship, but I carried on. I was happy when I heard, sometime later, that Bill had gotten married and was having a good life. As far as I know, he retired from the military and gave up practice as a therapist when he left the U.S. Jump ahead sixteen years. For the past several months I have almost nightly dreams of being in Bill’s office. Many of his personal belongings are there and I have volunteered to organize the things in preparation for his return to this country and to his office (although in the dream I know he will only be visiting). I am excited at the anticipation of seeing him again, excited to have a session with him, and there is also a strong sexual energy to the dream, entwined with the excitement of reuniting with someone with whom I feel so close to and inspired by. Okay, so. Those dreams recur over and again. Same thing…I’m in Bill’s office, carefully organizing his belongings, waiting for his arrival. Last night, however, there was a difference in the dream. I had finished organizing Bill’s things. He arrived and seemed pleased with the work I’d done. (This dream was the first one in which he actually was in the dream.) The connection between us was a strong as ever, but by the end of the dream Bill was angry with me. I had no idea why he was angry. I awoke feeling upset and disturbed. I would like some insight into the dreams.

A: In my opinion, the best dream interpretations come from the dreamer themselves. I would suggest that you begin keeping a dream journal by your bedside and write about the dream as soon as you wake from it. Capture the content of the dream, the feeling within the dream, how you feel upon waking, etc. After you have done this for a while, read back through it and look for common themes. It might even be helpful to have a trusted friend read through it with you and have a brainstorming session.

Dreams are glimpses into our unconscious mind. They can help us gain insight into what we are going through at certain times of our life. However, they are symbolic. We may miss the message if we interpret them too literally.

Here are some questions for you to ponder: What does Bill stand for in your life? What role did he play in the past (aside from therapist)? What might be missing in your life now? What are you anticipating or looking forward to now? What areas of your life might need more organization? Have you lost an emotional or sexual connection with your husband recently? Who can you trust now?

Chances are that if you can figure out what the dream means to YOU, in the context of your current life, it may subside because it has fulfilled its purpose. Good luck with your exploration.

All the best,

Dr. Holly Counts

October 7, 2022 0 comment

Sexual Assault Dream

by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP March 10th, 2022

written by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

I recently had a dream which was a small part of a bigger series of unrelated dreams, in which I was at the home of my grandmother and I saw a picture of me as a child (I remember thinking I was 2 years old or something) and my (currently deceased, but he would’ve been alive then) grandfather. In the picture, I think it was a moving picture, he put his tongue in my mouth and was tongue kissing me. I didn”t notice this at first and once I did I was alarmed and confused but I didn”t say anything outright, I just kept trying to figure out what year that photo was taken because I was sure I was two in the picture. My grandmother and my father looked at the back of the photo and tried to find what date it was taken. Neither seemed to see or acknowledge what I was seeing and were even trying to somewhat distract me with trivial things, though I don”t know if that was intentional or not. We couldn”t find the date and they were unconcerned. I remember immediately thinking when I saw my grandfather kiss me that it was molestation, that I was witnessing myself being molested as a child and that it was wrong ; but I didn”t really make a big deal out of it. Even though I was alarmed to see it because it was both so out of character for my grandfather and so wrong/disgusting beyond that I didn”t really feel anything. A little disbelief maybe. After not being able to find the date I allowed the rest of my paternal family to distract me and didn”t bring it up again or care. In fact I went on to have a completely unrelated dream and when I woke up I remembered thinking every dream except that one was significant only to realize later on that I had seen something incredibly disturbing but again with no big reaction. Not my sister nor my mom nor any maternal family members were in the dream. It was only one dream and I just had it, but I was wondering if this is an indication that I was actually molested as a child? (From the USA)

I can appreciate the discomfort you had while having this dream and the upset following it. I imagine the vivid nature of the dream — with the details — makes it particularly uncomfortable.

There are a few elements about the dream that I think are important. First is the way the information comes to you. You are witnessing a moving picture in the dream of you and your grandfather, and that your grandmother and her son (your father) are trying to distract you, which may or may not have been intentional. You then have other seemingly unrelated dreams realizing afterward you “…had seen something incredibly disturbing but again with no big reaction.”

Dreams often come in clusters trying to help us by giving us the message in different forms. The central element in your dream is that you and your grandmother and your father have “seen something incredibly disturbing.” What’s more the dream specifically leaves out your sister, mom or any maternal family members. This leaves you with three important themes coming from the dream: 1. Seeing something disturbing; 2. Others close to you seeing it too; 3. Still other close to you not seeing it and not being aware of it.

Dreams can use many ways to get your attention. Was it using your grandfather’s inappropriate behavior in the dream as a way to symbolize a disturbing experience? Or was it revealing a more specific issue of molestation?

I’d recommend keeping a dream journal and finding a therapist with both dream interpretation skills and issues involving incest. (The find help tab at the top of the page can help you find someone in your area.) This way you can have a professional guide you as you uncover the dream’s meaning. Doing so can keep you from jumping to conclusions on the one hand, and overlooking something that needs to be dealt with.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan

March 10, 2022 0 comment

Falling into Pool in Dream, Followed by Sleep Paralysis

by Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW March 7th, 2022

written by Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

I just had this dream where i was at a large party with basically all my good friends (and my economics teacher, for some reason, making constant ‘‘cameos’’)

It was a weird feeling throughout, as if i knew something bad was going to happen in this particular dream, i think i recognized i was dreaming, as if i was in a no mans land between dreaming and sleeping.

At the end of the dream, me and a group of close friends are sitting outside by a large table, when suddenly aggressive cats show up and we see a stranger being attacked by cats from a distance. I tell my friends we should get out of there. I cannot find my shoes though, and by this time everyone is gone except one of my best friends who is waiting for me. I walk all around the premises searching for them, realizing at one point my best friend is also gone. I close in on the pool, look over my shoulder and see friends having fun. Suddenly i feel extremely dizzy, in a drunkish way, and fall into the pool with all my clothes on. As i fall, which feels like a eternity, i hear noisy laughs in the background. I end up sinking in a very shallow pool. As i realize this, i try to swim up, but i can’t move, my body is completely paralyzed. ‘‘I am gonna die’’ i think to myself, only to realize that i cannot die, because i am dreaming. I see some kind of text in front of my eyes as i wake up. When i do, i cannot move, just as in the pool.

What could all this imply? Why did it feel as if i had control over my actions, control of my dream, as i was dreaming? What was it with me being paralyzed, drowning in the pool, only to wake up to an actual sleep paralysis? Thankful for any answers.

It’s important to preface this answer by saying that diagnosis over the internet is impossible. It’s always necessary to consult a professional in person. They will collect information about your circumstances. That is the best way to accurately determine a proper diagnosis, should one be warranted.

Your symptoms may be consistent with sleep paralysis. It’s episodic in nature. It often occurs as you’re drifting off to sleep or when attempting to wake up. You’re attempting to move your body but your brain didn’t get the message. It is an experience of being stuck in the most vivid stage of sleep while attempt to awaken.

Episodes of sleep paralysis have been reported for many hundreds of years. It can be a frightening experience. The idea of essentially dreaming while awake is a lot like hallucinating. The inability to move can be disconcerting. As a response, sometimes people will avoid sleeping in their beds and become frightened of going to sleep.

Research indicates that sleep paralysis is common. Close to 8% of the general population has had at least one episode of sleep paralysis over the course of their lives. It is more prevalent among students, individuals with certain psychiatric conditions, and shift workers. Females are said to experience it slightly more often than males. It’s also more common among African-Americans than Caucasian individuals for reasons that are not entirely clear.

Medical conditions have also been linked to sleep paralysis. These include hypertension, hypersomnia, narcolepsy, sleep apnea, and alcohol use, among others.

Among individuals with sleep paralysis, they commonly have trauma histories and posttraumatic stress disorders. It’s also typical for people with sleep paralysis to have a variety of different anxiety disorders. Those with personality traits such as disassociation, imaginativeness and believing in the paranormal or supernatural have also been linked to sleep paralysis, though the exact relationship between these traits requires more research.

Some individuals with diagnosed conditions of sleep paralysis have benefited from medication including certain types of antidepressants. This may or may not be warranted in your situation.

Hopefully this was an isolated incident. It is for many people. It may have been prompted by something that was happening in your life. Bad sleep habits are also known contributors.

If this issue is causing you distress, consult a sleep specialist. They may recommend a sleep study to ascertain whether a disorder is present and treatment is required. A sleep specialist may have recommendations for your sleep hygiene habits. If comorbid disorders are present, such as an anxiety disorder, you might also consult a therapist for counseling. Thank you for your question. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

March 7, 2022 0 comment

I Had a Dream about Being Sexual Assaulted

by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP January 4th, 2022

written by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

I recently had a dream it start of with this man sitting across a table from me. For some reason I was very uneasy I was waiting for someone. Then this women comes in. She had blond hair and was wearing a suite I had short straight black hair and looked nothing like myself. So then the women with blond hair started asking a bunch of questions and the guy avoiding her question started playing with some cards making them appear then disappear like a magic trick.
I remember the blond girl saying something but I was just focused on the guy. He then looks up and smirked.

That’s when everything goes black for a second. Then I remember sitting on something (i didn’t know what) but there was a window behind I remember my pants were down he was in front of me trying to sexually assault me but before I know it I had jumped out the window climbed down and grabbed a yellow bike. While riding the bike I look back at his house to see if he was following me, there was a girl she had a pink bicycle she was riding behind me she had no hair or expression then she disappeared then a pink was behind me and when I looked closer I saw him the man from before through the window of the car. I start riding faster and faster until I fall on the side of the curb I start shaking really hard then the car turned on a different street and he stepped out from behind the car and began to run at me. Then he turned into a girl a different girl I don’t know how but I knew her for some reason I thought she was his girlfriend. I was sitting on the sidewalk the bike was on the floor next to me I was curled up and about to cry but I felt so mad all of a sudden I got up and i started yelling at her. I specifically remember saying: “TELL HIM TO STAY AWAY FROM ME, AND TO NEVER TOUCH ME EVER AGAIN.”

I remember thinking that I had to get them before they get me(if that makes sense).so I want back to his house I found him and I took him tied him up and locked him in my room I didn’t know what to do with him. My clothes were dirt so I wanted to change. I started looking for my pants, and couldn’t find then. That’s when I heard a sound I couldn’t move he found me. I remember feeling paralyzed but what I remember most is how the hairs on the back of my nake stood up when he said “what do we have here”, and before I could turn around I was down on the couch and he was kissing my neck and I started shaking and wouldn’t stop repeating please don’t please and then I woke up and i was still shaking like I felt a pit in my stomach. I can remember every detail of that dream, and I just want some clarity on what it means and why it felt so real. (From the USA)

This seems like such a powerful dream and there are many variations of dream interpretation. While they may be interesting I think the most valuable way for you to interpret this is to ask yourself a few questions about this dream, such as why might you be having it now? Is there a theme to it? Are there other dreams with similar themes that crop up around it?

As you sit with the dream look for what is vivid and ask “why it is there?” As an example, the obvious features of the dream are sexual, but more interestingly nothing in the dream is as it should be and there is a great deal of confusion, yes? You are not comfortable, you don’t look like yourself, the guy isn’t paying attention, he makes things appear and disappear, you black out, are about to be sexually assaulted — and then out the window and to a yellow bike. For me, the two bikes, the yellow and pink introduce the traditional feminine color of pink and the time-honored gender-neutral color yellow. If this were my dream I’d ask the questions I posed above, then ask why the dream uses these colors, has an (androgynous?) type of woman with no hair or expression disappear, and then the guy turns into a girl.

Treat the dream lovingly. It is trying to give you help with something — ask yourself why certain symbols and the timing of it were used.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan

January 4, 2022 0 comment

What was my dream trying to tell me?

by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker October 16th, 2021

written by Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

From a woman in the U.S.: I had a dream that seemed so real. Someone shot my boyfriend in the stomach and he threw up. After the man shot my kids father he came to me and stood over me for what seemed like a life time. My heart was racing so fast I mean I could literally see the guys face but I have never seen him before in “real life”. I was sitting across the street from where my boyfriend was shot. I remember for some reason sitting on a blue bench, holding a box, that was filled with snacks. (I never hang around outside on corners)
I begged him not to shoot me because I had two babies right up the road. He still shot me in my head it felt so real.. I seen the flash from the gun, I felt the hot bullet; go through left side of my head, (right behind my hair line) and i also felt the the bullet come out of the my right side of my neck/underneath the chin. I could also feel the warm sticky blood coming from my head and neck. He shot me again and then i woke up.

What is this dream trying to tell me?

Thank you for writing. I’m sure this did scare you! Some dreams are like epic dramas. They feel so very, very real.

There are dozens of books about dreams that suggest concrete meaning for various images that occur in people’s dreams. They make for interesting reading but they aren’t helpful. Why? For the simple reason that different images have different meaning depending on a person’s culture, life experience, and current situation. In white middle American culture, for example, the color white generally means innocence or purity. But in China it can symbolize misfortune or mourning. A blank computer screen for one person might symbolize a fresh start or endless possibilities. For another person, it could mean blank despair.

As an American, you are currently being inundated by news stories of mass shootings, including the shooting of children. My guess is that it is making you more anxious than you realize. You may be able to bury your anxiety during the day when the busyness of taking care of your own children is distracting. But when you are asleep, the censor that operates during the day shuts down. All that anxiety gets funneled into the “what ifs” that you put in the back of your mind during the day.

What your dream is telling you is that you are frightened, which to me means that you are paying attention. Shootings are happening in malls, in churches, at concerts. Sandy Hook, where twenty 6-year-olds were gunned down in school, reverberates in every mother’s subconscious. Where are our children safe? Where are we safe? How do we protect our kids and ourselves without living in constant fear?

I think your image of sitting on the bench with snacks was your attempt to answer the question. You were trying to keep things ordinary when tragedy was happening. I think the fact that your children were “up the road” was your way to tell yourself that maybe you could keep them safe even if you and their father were shot.

In short: Your dream makes perfect sense to me. It wasn’t just a horror story. It was a visual presentation (as all dreams are) of your fears and hopes.

I wish you well.

Dr. Marie

October 16, 2021 0 comment

Bothered Over Dreams of Women

by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP July 11th, 2021

written by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

I’m highly confused over these dreams of former crushes that I’ve had for over a year now, since my current lifestyle does not lend itself well for dating. Due to a wealth of insecurities, I’ve lost interest in the opposite sex even if I had the chance, and also get annoyed when some discussed the topic with me. Since I’ve been able to do so much independently (friends, traveling, finish school), the benefits of being single for me far outweigh those of romance, except for the annoying, pretentious stories I see from people coupling up on SM. Therefore it seems as if mingling should be the last thing on my mind, apparently except in my subconsciousness.

It all started with a dream where I was pretty serious with a girl that I took to a play years ago, even though she’s taken in real life, but I’m not too surprised since I kept up with her during a time she got a sweet real estate position. But now I’ve had more such dreams increasing in intensity, and I’m up in arms after a dream I had involving a girl who in real life I was close to asking out but I chose not to because I was going off to uni without her, and she had some eccentricities that were a bit off-putting. I’ve reconnected with her recently, but I had a dream a few weeks ago where I engaged in a long kissing session, brought flowers and even asked her to marry me. The last dream has made me upset because I want to enjoy life just as it is now, but having dreams over something that I no longer desire makes me feel like a hypocrite and a walking contradiction.

Why am I having all these dreams??? As stated since the thought of women and dating make me cower, is there even a remote chance I can keep them from happening?? (From the USA)

Let’s look at the core reason for an answer to your question. There are 2 important underlying causes:

“… my current lifestyle does not lend itself well for dating.”
“… a wealth of insecurities…”

You say that due to these two features have been the reason you have “… lost interest in the opposite sex…”

This makes sense as you have neither the opportunity due to your lifestyle nor the confidence right now to move ahead and date. The lack of opportunity and insecurity make perfect sense in inhibiting your dating.

Yet both of these are due to circumstance rather than lack of desire. Your external situation (you are saying) isn’t conducive, and neither is your internal state. Both are inhibitors, obstacles to your natural desire. They are blocking what you want and you have learned not to want it as a result.

When we go on a diet our metabolism eventually realizes there is less food coming in and slows down. When what we want isn’t available our conscious mind dials the desire back, so we don’t spend a lot of time for something we don’t believe is possible to get.

But our unconscious mind doesn’t have these restrictions. The insecurities and opportunities in the dream state are removed and in the fantasy, you can get what you want. I notice that you didn’t say you were repulsed during the dream — it was only afterward you were upset.

The next time you have such a dream when you wake up dream the dream forward. Imagine the dream is two acts of a three-act play and you get to write the third act. In other words, end the dream in a way that is satisfying. This might take you a few efforts, trying different ways to wrap yourself around the content, but it will give you the sense that you can shape your dream in such a way as to be helpful and not distressing. You need to manage the dream to have it end in a way that feels more integrated with your life than it is right now.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan

July 11, 2021 0 comment

I Dreamt My Partner Is a Transsexual

by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP January 18th, 2021

written by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Hello. I have had this dream a few times in my life with four different partners. I dream that I find out that they were born a man (usually a disproportioned ugly man), then at some point in their life, they had a sex change operation to become a female, and have hid that fact about themselves. None of the women I’ve had this dream about are manly in any way, they were petite and very feminine in personality and looks, and the dream is quite disturbing as I do not know why I dream about it, or whether it is a good dream or bad. In the dream, when I find this out, I do not believe it at all and try to prove the obvious impossibility of she being a man, and I become very disturbed and sick, also incredibly depressed about the dishonesty. Once I unwillingly accept that she was a man, she starts to change slightly into the man, like I start to see similarities between her false feminine perfection and the man that she was, and I start to get more sick and disgusted, and start to loathe myself for being so blind and not seeing it. The dream usually consists of the above, and a dragged out confrontation between her and myself, and an internal dialogue between my sane and rational self and my dream self who accepts it, the former explaining the obvious impossibility of her being a man and the latter always proving that it must be true. I wake up sick to the stomach, and restless, and knowing that it is not true at all. I just can’t figure out why I dream that, and why so often, it kind of eats away at me and I start to distrust my partners sincerity, so the dream definitely affects me negatively. Please help me make sense of this? Thank you.

Thank you for sharing your dream with me. Unfortunately, an accurate analysis of the dream isn’t possible because there are a variety of different conditions, influences, and history that I am not aware of. As an example the dream could be a way of highlighting the struggle for intimacy with her or it could be about a transition in her life that is threatening you. There are also other interpretations about sexual identity concerns, or unresolved issues from childhood that are possibilities.

The one thing that is certain is the dream is disturbing to you and has captured your attention. I tend to view all dreams as being valuable because they have broken through our unconscious to get our attention. We should wrestle with them to figure out why.

My strong encouragement is to track down a therapist who has proficiency in dreams. Not all therapists will be able to help you with the interpretation, but when you are interviewing them ask if they work with dreams in their practice. Until then keep a dream log of what was happening the day you had to dream, the description of it, and the feelings that came along with it. This will be good information for you to bring the therapist.

Wishing you patience and peace,

Dr. Dan

January 18, 2021 0 comment